Dating 108: Which path should I take?

 

 Which path should you take? Many times when we are in a relationship with someone we wonder if that person will be your life long partner. Should you walk down one pathway with that person or walk down a different path by yourself. It is a hard choice. Many times no one can tell you what is best for you. However, if you are willing to pray and listen to the spirit it can lead you down the right path.

Marion D. Hanks has a talk called "Eternal Marriage" it gives good ideas on what to look for in a spouse. If you are already in a serious relationship it is important to make sure that you do a lot of soul searching to make sure that Heavenly Father wants you with that person. 

Remember to take off those "rose colored glasses." No matter the choices that you make it is going to be hard. Marriage is not a walk in the park. I have watched many couples and listen to lot of talk. Relationships are about giving an taking. It is more important to give than to take all the time. 

One of my favorite  Latter-day Saint musician is Cherie Call. She has a song  that is called "No" here are the lyrics to the song:

A little boy at the end of a day knelt by his bed to say a prayer
And Father up in Heaven heard the prayer he prayed
And listened to each word with greatest care
The boy said,
"Please bless that tomorrow I won't have to take a bath,
And bless that they will cancel school for snow."
And God had the power to protect him and never let him grow
But He said, "No."

A young man was holding tightly to the hand of a girl who had to say
Goodbye
And as she walked away he had to whisper a prayer
As he fought every tear that filled his eyes
He whispered,
"Please can you make her turn around and change her mind?
It's the deepest hurt that I have ever known."
And God had the power to protect him and never let him grow
But He said, "No."

And there are yeses that our father can hardly wait to give
And they are packed in every crevice of the lives we live
Sometimes God will pour down miracles and amazing twists of fate
And other times He chooses just to whisper, "Wait."

How many times have I prayed for blue skies
So no one has to cancel the game
And I feel so abandoned when the sky gets dark
Never knowing all the ones who prayed for rain
And usually the story's even trickier than this
With solutions that only God could know
But if you ask Him if He's ever overlooked you
Or ceased to love you so
He'll say, "No."

It is also important that after you marry your partner that you make sure that you continue to date each other. That way as a couple you can continue to grow as a couple on the same path.

 Sometimes the person we are with is suppose to teach us something. It is important to remember just because a person gets married in the temple that life is not going to be perfect. Sometimes we are only suppose to be with a person to learn and grow.

This last year I saw a powerhouse couple end their marriage of 20 years. I do not know the details of why their marriage ended.  I just know that they where the couple that everyone looked up too. Remember that we have trails... sometimes those trials we have we take with our partners and others we may have to take by ourselves.

However, we are never alone. Remember that you always have your Heavenly Father with you.