Importance of the Family

   Which path should you take? Many times when we are in a relationship with someone we wonder if that person will be your life long partner. Should you walk down one pathway with that person or walk down a different path by yourself. It is a hard choice. Many times no one can tell you what is best for you. However, if you are willing to pray and listen to the spirit it can lead you down the right path. Marion D. Hanks has a talk called " Eternal Marriage " it gives good ideas on what to look for in a spouse. If you are already in a serious relationship it is important to make sure that you do a lot of soul searching to make sure that Heavenly Father wants you with that person.  Remember to take off those "rose colored glasses." No matter the choices that you make it is going to be hard. Marriage is not a walk in the park. I have watched many couples and listen to lot of talk. Relationships are about giving an taking. It is more important to give than to take all th...

      The age old questions.... "How do you know they are the one?"   When I first thought about this question, I did not know how to answer the question. I mean I have already had a failed marriage. So I am not sure that I could answer the question.    How many times have you heard someone say that it is true love after meeting someone? I know I have.  Don't we all wish that we could have the "true love" the first time out in the dating world? It would make the dating game not such a pain sometimes.  Watching "Frozen" princess Anna falls in love with a amazing young man that she just met. Her sister the queen will not allow her to marry this young man. Anna doesn't understand because she feels that it is true love.  Sometimes as we are going through life we do not understand why others are not happy for our true love story. However, normally they are seeing something that we do not see. But in that time and moment we are not willing to liste...

  When you hear the word "Jerk" in terms of dating someone? What are you thinking? I know when I think about it there are a few characteristics I can think of.... (please remember a jerk can be a male or a female) Mean, rude, not respectful, full of themselves, thinks they are the cats meow.... I am sure you could add to this list. Normally a jerk has tended to have hurt a person that could be you or someone that you love.  Doctor Van Epp has written a book on "How to Avoid Marrying A Jerk." Gives many example on what a jerk is. Sometimes it is very hard for the person with the jerk to leave. This is because they are nice and do not want hurt the "Jerk."  Doctor Van Epps has a relationship attachment model (RAM) . The model shows the different ranges that are important in a relationship.  Like any model you need to look to see what is best for you and your life long goals. Not every ones goals or what they need in a relationship are the same. With the RAM ...

     Have you heard the saying "That person is my soul mate?" Have you ever wonder if there is such a thing as a soul mate? I mean as a member of the church we know that families can be together forever as  long as they sealed in the temple. But the question is how do you know if the person is the one or if they are your soul mate.  When looking for someone long term it is important to look at different qualities or characteristics that could be warning flags. Or they could be something that you are looking for. Every person and relationship is different. When we are looking for the one, it is very important to make sure the rose colored glasses have come off.  Chapter 6 in "Successful Marriages and Families: Proclamation Principles and Research Perspectives" talks about how a person can have infidelity with someone they will never meet. An example of this is a famous person. However, this is cheating no matter what. Now a days with all the social media it ...